Comments on Dating is Warfare: Bland Beer

Ah, the sweet smell of progress.

2012-02-03T10:58:14.927-08:00

Ah, the sweet smell of progress.

It must feel so good knowing what you want, and wh...

2012-01-23T10:39:11.110-08:00

It must feel so good knowing what you want, and what you don't want. Good for you!

That guy does not deserve you as a friend. I know ...

2012-01-16T22:33:59.130-08:00

That guy does not deserve you as a friend. I know you are looking for hang out buddies- but really he just sounds like a dud!!

So the old girlfriend was passive aggressive, need...

2012-01-16T21:10:31.720-08:00

So the old girlfriend was passive aggressive, needy and extremely immature.

What do you bet that if you talked to her, she would tell you that beer guy was passive aggressive, needy and extremely immature?

Oh, but you already know that! Keep the faith, and better luck next time. Keep trooping.

--PT

Yep, I knew it. You were a backup plan. At least ...

2012-01-16T10:45:13.958-08:00

Yep, I knew it. You were a backup plan. At least he was honest about it, though.

The way to make lemonade with situations involving guys like this one is to use him as a sounding board for other dates you go on with other guys. This one isn't going to change any time soon, he's too busy moping about what coulda been with his ex. The upside is that, since he's already in an analytical place, that might reap benefits in re: answers to questions you might have.

Anon #1 from yr. previous post (p.s. -good luck).

I know I don't know you, but I'm really pr...

2012-01-15T14:46:09.132-08:00

I know I don't know you, but I'm really proud of you! (I've been reading your blog for a while).

It's funny how this happens in dating. You make a decision to change your course, and the "universe" decides to test you. "Are you sure you don't want this? You are SO good at attracting this..." But you just keep staring it down and say, NO.

In shorter time than you think, the tides will turn. And one day someone new will roll in. And it will be different.