Comments on Dating is Warfare: AfterWorld

I hope you are alright. I am so sorry to learn of ...

2012-01-29T22:32:09.618-08:00

I hope you are alright. I am so sorry to learn of your recent loss. Take care of yourself and share your pain through writing to make it easier.

It's been awhile but I stumbled upon your blog...

2011-02-02T11:44:41.594-08:00

It's been awhile but I stumbled upon your blog today. I'm so sorry.

Chin up!

This is so sad. I have to say that I've been t...

2010-11-10T19:29:49.941-08:00

This is so sad. I have to say that I've been there. I've lost both my parents and my brother. Luckily I have my wonderful husband of 34 years beside me. I'm sorry for your loss. The world will never be the same without your sister or nephew. You can never pick up the phone and call her again..I understand. Keep living and appreciate life.

Sorry for what had happened. Life must go on no ma...

2010-09-29T19:51:27.960-07:00

Sorry for what had happened. Life must go on no matter what. You may loss someone very dear to you but you have to continue to go on living.

I almost cry. . So sorry for your lost. I'll h...

2010-09-15T23:18:43.569-07:00

I almost cry. . So sorry for your lost. I'll help you pray. I know they are all happy now with God. Take care of yourself:(

Oh, I am so sorry that you lost your loved ones. ...

2010-09-14T20:24:21.042-07:00

Oh, I am so sorry that you lost your loved ones. I just read your post for the first time and you have deeply affected me. Please know that people are thinking about you and wishing you peace and comfort.
Love, Louisa

I am so very sorry about your sister and nephew.

2010-09-13T20:04:32.379-07:00

I am so very sorry about your sister and nephew.

I'm just chiming in to say I stop by to read h...

2010-09-05T19:57:08.465-07:00

I'm just chiming in to say I stop by to read how things are going, and I will be keeping you in my thoughts.

I stop by from time to time. I am so sorry for you...

2010-08-31T02:28:05.601-07:00

I stop by from time to time. I am so sorry for your loss. you're very brave.

This is my first visit to your blog. I'm very...

2010-08-18T16:31:30.701-07:00

This is my first visit to your blog. I'm very sorry for the pain you have from the death of your sister and nephew. I am all too familiar with the Before and After of life. My mom died in a car wreck when I was 17. Ten months later, my boyfriend and I were hit by a drunk driver while riding a motorcycle. He died. The car amputated my left leg and one-half of my pelvis bone. I've learned to accept the amputation and have gone on to have an active life. My mother was buried 30 years ago today, which also happened to be her 48th birthday. I cry as much or more for her today than I did 30 years ago. Life will go on. You must live well because your sister would be heartbroken otherwise. That's how I've gone on in life. I have no family living. Please take care of yourself and treasure the man who loves you. Know that it's okay to laugh. It's okay to feel joy. It's okay to have a good life. I will pray for you. God bless you.

I just read this - 18 August -- DT I am so, so sor...

2010-08-18T13:17:02.232-07:00

I just read this - 18 August -- DT I am so, so sorry to read that news. I am very sorry; it's really terrible, and I know you'll feel it, always. I'm glad you have Wine Guy to be there with you and comfort you, because it would be terrible to be alone with this awful loss. -- And I know entirely what you mean, that he already *is* your "husband." That's the way I feel about Funny Guy, who is still here; we've been living together for about a year now. -- So I'm glad to read you again, but distressed at the very sad news. Hang in there. -- And if you need distraction and feel well enough, you and WG should come to NYC and meet me and FG.
xoxoxox Mimi

there are no words... but i would gladly sit in si...

2010-08-06T08:07:02.620-07:00

there are no words... but i would gladly sit in silence with you and hold your hand... sending you warmth.

These seem like such small words, but I am so very...

2010-08-05T21:12:46.528-07:00

These seem like such small words, but I am so very sorry for your loss.

Your in my thoughts through this terrible time. I...

2010-08-05T16:03:25.878-07:00

Your in my thoughts through this terrible time. I track your blog through Google Reader and it's always pleasant when there's something from you.

I know things are rough now, but you'll make it through. Strength is taking it five minutes at a time until you can handle more than that.

I'm so sorry...I've been checking to see i...

2010-08-05T13:21:07.219-07:00

I'm so sorry...I've been checking to see if you had written and I had been getting worried about you. Never would I had imagined you would have been going through the "AfterWorld."

You're in my thoughts.

~

I am so terribly sorry and you're in my though...

2010-08-05T12:15:35.854-07:00

I am so terribly sorry and you're in my thoughts. Even though I am a stranger halfway across the country, I've been a regular reader for a while and I get emails when you write. I am very saddened about what you had to write about today.

I don't think it matters what moniker Wine Guy carries anymore if he's there beside you supporting and loving you.

The only thing I can think to say is I am so sorry...

2010-08-05T11:59:13.922-07:00

The only thing I can think to say is I am so sorry. How absolutely horrible.

I'm a long time reader (I used to write the bl...

2010-08-05T10:39:59.527-07:00

I'm a long time reader (I used to write the blog, Bewitched in LA) and I will never delete your blog from my Google Reader. I promise it will get better. I know this because my only sister died in 2002, during my first year of law school. It changed me and it made me aware of the strength I never knew I had. You will survive and you will figure out a way to live with it and be ok and eventually, be happy. I promise. When you wrote about the before and the after, my breath caught in my throat, because that's exactly how I describe my life to people - before her death and after, and the before seems like a dream and the life of a different person. Anyways, I just want you to know that you are in my thoughts and in my heart and that you have a kindred soul up here in LA who is sending love down the coast to you. It will never be the same, ever, but life will get better and you will be happy again. I promise. xoxo, Eve (fka Samantha)

Oh god. That's is so much worse than I had fe...

2010-08-05T10:01:46.640-07:00

Oh god. That's is so much worse than I had feared. I am so very sorry.

I am glad you are still standing. (Even if your damn hips are giving you a hard time - they have some nerve! And completely awful timing)

I never found a way back to "before" - things simply are never the same. But I did learn tremendously powerful lessons about life, and love, and priorities that have changed me (and the way I live my life) for the better in infinite ways. I would far rather not have had to learn those lessons, but several years after my equivalent life changing event, I am glad that at least I can honor my loss with valuing every day I have with the people I love a bit more fully and openly than I did before. I hope that, in time, you will feel that there are a few small elements of the AfterWorld that are your tribute to your sister and nephew.

I am glad you have Wine Guy by your side. And thank you for sharing your nightmare with us. Whenever anyone shares this kind of thing w/ me, I consider it anything but a burden. It's an honor to be trusted, and an opportunity to return some of what was given to me at horrible times in my life. I know your readers will want to do nothing but send you strength and good wishes so I hope there is some tiny comfort in that for you.

I am so very, very sorry.

Elizabeth

i'm so, so sorry.

2010-08-05T06:39:17.915-07:00

i'm so, so sorry.

You are still in my Google Reader, and while I was...

2010-08-05T05:29:28.313-07:00

You are still in my Google Reader, and while I was glad to see your post pop up, I am so, so sorry to hear about your loss.

This was heartbreaking to read. I am so sorry. Y...

2010-08-04T22:23:17.602-07:00

This was heartbreaking to read. I am so sorry.

Your readers who have suffered profound loss will understand the silence, and know that sharing your grief isn't a burden. I'm six years in the AfterWorld, and while I can actually breathe again it isn't the same as Before. (Of course, it wouldn't be.)

I am so glad Wine Guy is with you through all of this.

Sending you a big hug -- just emailed you -- I'...

2010-08-04T22:22:45.641-07:00

Sending you a big hug -- just emailed you -- I'm so, so sorry to hear what you've been through this year.

I am so sorry to learn of your recent loss. I d...

2010-08-04T21:11:45.010-07:00

I am so sorry to learn of your recent loss.

I do not feel any sympathy for Only Child, since it was hugely insensitive for him to get married at the same location as your cancelled wedding.

You may have quite a few readers who added you to their Google Reader feed, and although they might have gotten out of the habit of checking here they will all be happy to see your blog appear in their feed.

I hope that you can find peace and comfort soon, and am glad that you have Wine Guy by your side.