Note: The "Trooper" in question is not actually in the military. It's a metaphor, people.

April 10, 2011

Who Knows Me, Baby

Well I certainly know which friends still read my blog after that last post. Not that I intended it as a test. I was just writing what I was feeling. It wasn't until I started getting emails and phone calls out of the blue from friends I hadn't heard from in a long while that I realized that maybe I scared some people with my honesty. Sorry for that.

The good news is that I have good news! I finally have a surgery date (May 2) to (hopefully) fix the problem with my hip. Having a light at the end of this long, dark tunnel has made all the difference. While the pain is nearly intolerable and chronic, I now know it will be over soon. I never thought I'd be so excited to go under the knife again!

I suppose I'll address the anonymous commenter from my last post as he's made it clear that, while he finds me pathetic in every sense, he still reads my blog. Hey, I get it. I loved listening to Dr. Laura because she was so much fun to hate.

To be honest, I had little reaction when I read his comment (and if he isn't a man, I'll be shocked). I just kind of shrugged and thought, "He doesn't know me. Whatever." It wasn't until later that I realized the power of my reaction. You see, while I originally started this blog as a way to make light of my dating skirmishes, I write these days because I know there are a few people out there who want to know how I'm doing. Most of these people I've never met. But they stop by, check in, offer words of support and encouragement, and sometimes even advice or a blunt opinion. I can't tell you how much those comments mean to me. I value your compassion and feel honored that you care enough about my wellbeing to take time out of your busy lives to inquire about mine.

So when I wrote that last entry, I felt I owed it to these kind strangers to tell them the truth. Of course, it also felt good to get it off my chest. The comments I received from those regular readers were heartwarming to say the least. By the time asshole anonymous piped in, well, who gives a crap about his petty attacks when the people who "know" me are sending such kindness and love my way?

I'll keep those good wishes close to me as my surgery date approaches and, hopefully, I'll have happier stories and moments to share as our San Diego summer gets underway. In the meantime, keep troopin' along people.



A fair fairy said...
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Anonymous said...

Oh gosh, DT, you don't even need to 'publish' stuff like that comment. A blog is by definition 'uttered' in a public forum, and there are nutcases full of anger and hate out there; I run into angry people (usually men though not always) like that in the subway all the time. No need whatsoever to take them seriously; no need to publish them or waste a minute on them.

On to more important stuff: I'm so glad to hear about your surgery. That is wonderful news, and I hope it goes very well. Please keep us up to date. I remember how wonderful WG was w. yr surgery a few years ago, and I'm sure he'll be great again this time. I like him, sight unseen. Your east coast blog friends want you to get healed quickly so you can come visit.
xoxox Mimi

Anonymous said...

Yay! I'm so glad there is some light peeking through for you. I hope the surgery brings the relief you need and that June will be the start of a happier, healthier time for you.

(And I'm glad those stupid comments rolled off you without hard. That speaks volumes about your own character and strength.)


Sonny Amou said...

I hear that pain meds work well with a healthy dose of Glenfiddich 15-year. Just sayin'.

Wishing for a safe and effective surgery for you, lady.


Anonymous said...

I hope the surgery went well yesterday and this marks the start of a new, painfree, happier time for you.

All the best,

Land Mines said...

You are an amazing, courageous, fantastic woman who has gone through some much. Even though I rarely post, I ALWAYS read your blog and think of you. You are on my thoughts and I wish you a speedy recovery. You deserve nothing but happiness.


Anonymous said...

Good luck DT. Hopefully by now your recovery is on the way. We are having beautiful days in SD aren't we?

As to the asshole who left bullying comments, here is an excerpt from Tina Fey's Bossypants:

"Amy Poehler was new to SNL and we were all crowded into the seventeenth-floor writers' room, waiting for the Wednesday read-through to start. There were always a lot of noisy "comedy bits" going on in that room. Amy was in the middle of some such nonsense with Seth Meyers across the table, and she did something vulgar as a joke. I can't remember what it was exactly, except it was dirty and loud and 'unladylike'.

Jimmy Fallon, who was arguably the star of the show at the time, turned to her and in a faux-squeamish voice said, 'stop that! It's not cute! I don't like it.'

Amy dropped what she was doing, went black in the eyes for a second, and wheeled around on him. 'I don't fucking care if you like it.' Jimmy was visibly startled. Amy went right back to enjoying her ridiculous bit.

... Amy made it clear that she wasn't there to be cute...She was there to do what she wanted to do and she did not fucking care if you like it."

So asshole bully who left rude comments, we don't fucking care what you think.

wineandthecity said...

we don't call you Trooper for nothing, dear. Been reading you all the while, sending lots of good vibes your way. And may I suggest a slightly chilled bottle of cru beaujolais to wash away your tears? chinup, Young Person. You can do this, all of it.

Scent of Eros said...

Informative post, I've a question though, which is better dating site?

Alt Com said...

From the movie Bambi "If you can't say something nice... don't say nothing at all. "

Being in a public forum doesn't mean that we can post anything that we like. We should still exercise responsibility in posting.

This dating blog has great information it, thats why it attracts a lot of readers (the good ones, the bad ones, and the ugly ones)

Hope you are feeling well after the operation by the way!