Note: The "Trooper" in question is not actually in the military. It's a metaphor, people.

October 14, 2007

Fool in Love

After all my agonizing (see here), this was how Wine Guy said he loved me -- inside this card that came accompanied by a bouquet of tulips on our 6 month anniversary. Apparently he got my not-so-subtle message about what I really wanted - to know how he felt.

From this message on the front of the card, I still wasn't quite sure what to make of it. With him looking on, I opened the card to see that he had signed it "Love, [Wine Guy]."

If he hadn't jumped in with the statement I will share with you momentarily, I'm sure I would have soon started agonizing over if he meant "Love" or just signed off "love" like you would "sincerely yours." But before I could close the card he said with a laugh in his voice, "See? If I didn't love you I would have certainly killed you by now!"

Still trying to figure out whether to laugh, cry or fear for my life, I leaned in and said, "So are you saying what I think you're saying?"

"Yes, I love you."

And that was that. Phew. Check that off the list. Now it's down to day-to-day relationship business. Whatever that means.

Oh, and I said it back, of course.

Yes, this is an unusual way to express such a significant affection. And Wine Guy did ask me later if the card was "too flip." I insisted it wasn't and the more I look at it, the more I adore it. It's different and memorable. Just like us.



Loverville said...

Ooohhhhhh! Yay! He's so lovely!

I have to admit -- I cheered when I read that! I'm living vicariously through you, following your "story" like some people follow soap operas! Yes, I do realize, it's not fiction... it's just been so nice following the progression of your relationship, and seeing it go so well!

Have you discussed with Wine Guy how much he's actually read your blog?

It's still early yet in my relationship with TC (about a month in), but already I'm thinking if/how/when to tell him about my own blog. Nerve-wracking!

Anonymous said...

You made my day! All's right with the world. I too have been following your story with great enjoyment and yet again, the main characters did not fail me...But where on earth did he find that card?

coffeesnob said...

it's always a desperately sad day when a woman manages to force a chap to tell her how he really feels about her.


coffee guy.

Dating Trooper - Dating is Warfare said...

Thanks LV and Anon for the nice words!
Oh, Coffee Guy...I may be a little neurotic but I'm not stupid. I know the difference between love and lip service. If I really had to "force" it out of him it wouldn't be something I'd share on the web with a bunch of strangers, my friends, my mom...hell, even freakin' Wine Guy logs on every once in awhile! Why so bitter?

Melissa said...

Oh Coffee Guy... so naive... so lacking in personal responsibility. When will you learn that no one forces anyone to do anything (unless there's some sort of gun involved.) We all choose what we do -- even when we remain with an abusive husband, lend money to a deadbeat sibling, or... profess our love.

I've met Wine Guy, and trust me -- he is a MAN who owns his choices. No weapons necessary.

coffeesnob said...

not bitter. trying to be funny. and not succeeding. (it's a familiar situation: female wants male to avow affections, male stalls and shilly-shallies). nevermind. enjoy new effusions of affection.

Loverville said...

Methinks Coffeesnob needs some lovin' himself, and is perhaps a bit jealous.

Eh, ignore him. There's always a curmudgeon lurking around somewhere.

Samantha said...

Really happy for you! This definitely made me smile today.

Dating Trooper - Dating is Warfare said...

Glad to hear it Coffee Guy...sometimes humor gets lost in print, huh? Plus, single 30-something women can be just a LITTLE sensitive about this kind of stuff. All's good :-)

sexagenarian and the city said...

good news.
very happy The Words have been said.

coffeesnob said...

tricky thing, irony.

Anonymous said...

Congrats, now we need to work on the marriage and kid. Any progress in that dept? Baby steps I know.

Melissa said...

Jesus, sensitive much? (I'm talking about myself, of course.) Sorry Coffee Snob, but I'm having a hell of a day and you caught me with my boxing gloves on... Peace out, dude.

spicy hebrew national said...

congrats! wine guy sounds so sweet. im very happy for you.

Xweing said...

Good for you!! Feel so happy for you...

Do Western men/women really feel so hard for it to utter a simple "i love u"?

Btw, we're on almost similar timelines!! Just a month apart... I'm in a 6-month-old relationship too! And that whole moving-in-together part... I totally comprehend... hahaha

Palani said...

Well, wine guy could have been a bit more creative, but all that ends well is done well. Good luck for you both. Coffe Guy, know the audiance before you speak buddy. This place is not right one for male humor :)