Note: The "Trooper" in question is not actually in the military. It's a metaphor, people.

May 25, 2007

I am Woman, I Come in Peace

Basically, meeting Ex Wine Gal was anti-climactic. As promised by Wine Guy, she would see me, smile, and I would realize she is generally friendly and no need to worry. She made an extra effort to be warm to me, and even came out at the end of the night with a hand truck to cart away some of the boxes Wine Guy brought that she had packed earlier in the week (tangible proof that she, indeed, is getting her stuff out of their formerly shared apartment).

What I should have been more concerned about was the once over I would be getting from his other friends, particularly his female friends -- of which there are many. Having many male friends myself, I know how carefully I examine any new girlfriends who enter the picture, trying to see if she'll be the kind who can't handle having another woman around, even if she is just a friend.

Of course, I know I'm fine with Wine Guy having friends who are women (I'd be a hypocrite if I wasn't), but I'm never sure what tactic I should take in making sure they get that. How do I wave the white flag and communicate "I am new girlfriend. I come in peace." - without also seeming like I'm kissing ass?

I have no idea what I did or didn't do, but whatever it was it worked I guess. The one significant female friend I met at the tasting apparently texted Wine Guy later that night to say I was "Lovely in every sense of the word." When I asked him how she could actually know that since we spoke for about 5 minutes total, he proceeded to tell me his friend was, in fact, somewhat psychic and scarily intuitive about people. Apparently she can estimate a person's character within the first 5 seconds of meeting them.

First of all, thank freakin' God I hadn't learned that piece of information before I met her. I think I would have been terrified. Second of all...do I actually believe that? Well, she did think I was lovely....so, hell yeah!
Dismissed.

5 comments:

Loverville said...

What a great night! And while I only "know" you through your blog, you DO seem lovely in every sense of the word!

But it's especially nice to hear that from someone who is apparently somewhat psychic! Well done!

Loverville said...

What a great night! And while I only "know" you through your blog, you DO seem lovely in every sense of the word!

But it's especially nice to hear that from someone who is apparently somewhat psychic! Well done!

kristin said...

yeah, if someone gives you a "reading" like that just go with it!!

So is the ex cute, stylish, or incredibly talented? I'm always curious; meeting the ex can usually give you brand new insight into a guy.

Green Daze 44 said...

I'm considering leaving my husband of 10 years and it's scary to think of dating again. Especially since things have changed since I dated. Mainly the internet. Have you done the internet dating thing? Is that how you met Wine Guy? My mother met her currant husband online and is happy as a lark, as she would say. I know I don't want to have to hang out in bars to meet guys. I also live in Waco, TX. which is a family oriented place and doesn't have a big singles scene, except for maybe the college kids here, so online dating opens up my world a bit.
I'm enjoying your stories......

Dating Trooper - Dating is Warfare said...

Thanks Green Daze...I'm sure it must seem tremendously daunting to you as you face this big decision. I won't lie to you, it is daunting. But it can be a scary, thrilling adventure as well. As a matter of fact, I just thought of what my next entry will be about so stay tuned. Just remember there are plenty of other people just like you holed up in their houses in Waco and other nearby towns worried about the same thing. So how else will you find each other? The internet is a good place to start, as weird as it feels. I met Wine Guy at a singles night at a local wine bar, thinking it would be more "sophisticated" than a bar-bar. I was right. Try all options and spread the word to people you like and respect that you are looking! More to come and keep your chin up!