Basically, meeting Ex Wine Gal was anti-climactic. As promised by Wine Guy, she would see me, smile, and I would realize she is generally friendly and no need to worry. She made an extra effort to be warm to me, and even came out at the end of the night with a hand truck to cart away some of the boxes Wine Guy brought that she had packed earlier in the week (tangible proof that she, indeed, is getting her stuff out of their formerly shared apartment).
What I should have been more concerned about was the once over I would be getting from his other friends, particularly his female friends -- of which there are many. Having many male friends myself, I know how carefully I examine any new girlfriends who enter the picture, trying to see if she'll be the kind who can't handle having another woman around, even if she is just a friend.
Of course, I know I'm fine with Wine Guy having friends who are women (I'd be a hypocrite if I wasn't), but I'm never sure what tactic I should take in making sure they get that. How do I wave the white flag and communicate "I am new girlfriend. I come in peace." - without also seeming like I'm kissing ass?
I have no idea what I did or didn't do, but whatever it was it worked I guess. The one significant female friend I met at the tasting apparently texted Wine Guy later that night to say I was "Lovely in every sense of the word." When I asked him how she could actually know that since we spoke for about 5 minutes total, he proceeded to tell me his friend was, in fact, somewhat psychic and scarily intuitive about people. Apparently she can estimate a person's character within the first 5 seconds of meeting them.
First of all, thank freakin' God I hadn't learned that piece of information before I met her. I think I would have been terrified. Second of all...do I actually believe that? Well, she did think I was lovely....so, hell yeah!